Do not be afraid of your shadows or childhood wounds. You have already lived through them. You are here, now. You are ready to release all that does not serve your highest good. Facing your shadows illuminates the limiting beliefs that you need to reframe and reprogram to grow into your most authentic self.
Accepting your shadows with self-love and gratitude makes you bullet proof. When you understand the root cause, release what is not yours to carry, and accept that which is yours to bear, you have clarity. That clarity diminishes emotional triggers (or eliminates them) and provides strength to stand in the power of self-acceptance. When standing in unconditional self-acceptance, you aren't so triggered by those who are afraid of their own authenticity.
Choose whichever options feel most relevant to you. Come back for more as new things surface on your journey. If you are looking for a shadow that does not appear below, please email me to request any topic of interest. Many Shadow topics align to the 21 Day Programs, however, you do not need to be working on any program to do shadow work. Each item below contains a topic summary, shadow symptoms, journaling prompts, and lined pages, to help you reprogram your thoughts to meet your true essence.
Awakening
Awakening
Fear, discomfort, and resistance to change, come from what we avoid facing. To grow, we must push through this doubt. In pushing through, we find our strength, resilience and power, within ourselves. We find our spiritual essence, our guiding light.
Cognitive Disconnect
A starting gate to awaken, it's the tension between what you believe and what you experience. Without feeling this, you don't see the power you have over your wounds. Healing is to stand in your own truth, values, and worth, in a way they can never take from you.
Ego Death
Before you awaken, the ego controls thoughts, feelings & actions, subconsciously. It tells you what you need and how to survive, through fear and false identity. Awakening allows the ego to be a tool of navigation. Transition comes w/ confusion, fear & identity crisis. Ego death allows liberating transformation, placing control in the hands of the Higher Self.
Dark Night of the Soul
Existential Crisis/ Dark Night of the Soul may prompt spiritual awakening. When the meaning of life, your ability to find purpose, and the harsh nature of the world become overwhelming; you experience numbness and fear. Healing reconnects you to a life of purpose, strength, wholeness, and hope.
Illusion Dissolution
Mindset shifts create growth, awakening, and clarity, w/ strength, wisdom, and truth from rebuilding with faith in yourself. It can also bring disillusionment, a sense of betrayal, confusion, a crisis in faith, or a sense of emptiness. Healing is choosing truth over comfort and seeing with clarity.
Spiritual Estrangement
As you awaken, not everyone is awakening. Some connections may struggle to understand you . This isn’t a sign you are on the wrong path, it's a shift in energetic alignment. As you awaken your vibration rises, causing a lack of resonance. Healing is allowing your spiritual essence to guide social connections so you may be wholly authentic.
Chakras
Chakra System Block
The flow of energy through the chakras shapes our choices, direction and connections. When our programming leads to uncertainty of our purpose, lack of direction or inability to gain traction, our energy is pulling us away from our true path. Come back into balance by identifying your truth.
Co-Creation Block
Removing a Co-Creation Block means allowing yourself to create, even when you feel uncertain or imperfect. Receive the act of creating as a gift in itself. Set aside self-doubt and self-judgment. Let the haters hate - they’re only jealous fans. Once you trust the process, the floodgates of creativity reopen; and with each act of creation you cultivate your highest and most authentic self.
Crown Chakra Clearing
Opening the Crown means recognizing that you are not separate from the Universe, you are a part of it. Open up to the infinite wisdom of the Oneness of everything, while surrendering the need for certainty. Trust the flow of the Universe and let your intuition guide you. When you quiet the doubt and embrace Divine connection you unblock this chakra and open to clarity, peace, and spiritual alignment.
Self-Empowerment
Body Dysmorphia
Beauty lives in the spirit, not the vessel. Healing means reprogramming the belief that personal value lies in appearance, by amplifying self-worth, self-acceptance, and gratitude for all the beauty within. Strength in these values makes your aura more attractive and stunning than any airbrushed celebrity.
Conditional Love
Worthiness wound that moves the goal post to 'earn' love constantly, leading to self sacrifice. Unconditional love never needs to be earned. Dictators of other's worthiness of love, feel unworthy and invalid themselves. Generational co-dependency occurs. Pour unconditional love into yourself, without seeking external validation, to heal.
Devaluation
A self-worth wound of neglect, breadcrumbing, & gaslighting. It causes approval chasing, hiding authenticity, and a tendency to shrink. It lies that you don't deserve love/ respect just for being you. Healing is commitment to knowing your worth, loving yourself, and blocking any energy disregards or disrespects you.
Emotional Masking
Generational trauma, childhood neglect, or abusive relationships create a deep habit of suppressing emotions. Healing means feeling and understanding your emotions, without judgement, to bring peace and emotional control to respond with clarity, rather than react with fear.
Envy Shadow
This scarcity mindset that believes there isn’t enough good to go around, so success or happiness of another reduces the amount of success or happiness available to you. Healing is to realize there is no lack or scarcity, no need to compete. It's a return to your own rhythm, knowing you are enough exactly as you are.
External Validation
An ingrained reliance on external approval to quantify your self-worth, from receiving conditional love. It is tied to Envy as it forces constant comparison to others to feel validated and worthy. Healing is to discover you don’t need to prove your worth because your value is not tied to anyone else’s perceptions about you.
Generational Trauma
Deeply ingrained beliefs, passed down through the DNA, epigenetically. These wounds influence traits and behaviors of later generations. Addressing root causes of family trauma allows you to update your epigenetic code, fostering healthier outcomes for future generations.
Guilt/ Shame
Guilt says you have failed. Shame says you are a failure. Shrinking, over-compensating, and reliving past mistakes, provide abundant self-punishment, without paying any debt. Healing is knowing failure isn't bad, it's human. Living from core values, with self-respect, changes guilt and shame into lessons learned and knowledge gained.
Materialism
An identity tied to material things and recognition for them creates fear that loss of possessions means loss of self. This attachment to materialism allows the external world to control you. Detaching means rejecting what you have determines your value. Peace comes from living with gratitude for all that flows through our lives.
Stress/ Burnout
Needing to earn worth, through external validation, creates stress that leads to burnout. Healing begins with understanding that your purpose is to live, breathe, and be; that your worth is the depth in which you experience life, not in how hard you work or how deeply you sacrifice for others.
Attachment Style & Relationship Dynamics
Abandonment
Abandonment says belonging is conditional, rejection equals unworthiness, and love is something to earn. Healing is standing in your own presence, believing that you determine your value. It is deciding to love and honor your own self-worth, with a knowledge that you will never abandon yourself.
Abuse
Abuse comes in many forms and results in shrinking, in a fear of speaking up, and in beliefs that suffering is survival, that you must give up your power, and allow them to define you. Healing is recognizing that you write your own story, own your own soul, and you tap into your own resilience to see your own light.
Alienation
Being left out, feeling unseen, being treated differently or disconnect from a nurturing and supportive family all lead to a sense of isolation. It causes a feeling that you are broken. It makes you clamor for external validation or rejecting social interaction. When you stop alienating yourself, this wound heals.
Anger/ Resentment
Anger must be released to reclaim your power. Letting go allows you gain clarity, peace, wisdom, and freedom. Anger/ resentment keep you in low vibration, preventing you from stepping into your power. Honoring your truth, forgiving yourself, and refusing to carry other's projections, heals this wound.
Anxiety/ Fear
Healing from Chronic Anxiety & Fear means that you trust yourself to navigate whatever may come, knowing that worrying about the unknown won’t change what is meant to be. Healing means learning to regulate the feelings of fear and anxiety as they start to rise, so they don’t steamroll your day or your life.
Betrayal
The pain of betrayal is about what was done and the trust that was lost, in oneself and in the world; but isolation is not self-healing, it is self-imprisonment. To heal from this wound you must reclaim trust in your own discernment, and ability to heal and to love without fear; knowing you will never betray yourself again for any reason.
Codependency
Insecure attachment that seeks external validation in and creates emotional dependency on others to feel safe. This sense of safety is false, because it bypasses self-worth.
Healing means moving from self-sacrifice to self-validation, self-worth, and self-love.
Control
Trying to control what is not yours to control traps you in a cycle of anxiety & disconnect.
Focusing your control inward - releasing wounds, creating values-based boundaries, and embracing your authenticity - brings the safety you seek.
Cynicism
Being a cynic is a self-protection mechanism adopted to protect you from emotional pain. It masquerades as wisdom, and blinds you to the potential for joy and beauty in human existence. Healing is the ability to have faith and trust, without fear, while opening to the good still exists.
Despair
Despair is the sibling of Cynicism Self-sacrifice of your values, and shrinking yourself causes despair to set in. When you feel despair and you keep moving in the present moment, you reprogram your mind. When you heal enough to stand in your power, you’ll no longer walk through the storm, you’ll be the storm.
Insecure Attachment
Connecting with others without strong self-identity creates anxiety/ fears related to self-expression; causing a need to hide (anxious attachment) or run away (avoidant attachment) from conflict or need for communication. Releasing insecurities to creates secure connections rooted in freedom.
Trust Wound
Betrayal sends the nervous system into self-protection mode, as you question yourself, and everyone else; seeking proof of safety before creating new connections or paths. Healing is understanding that you cannot control others, but you can love and trust in yourself so deeply no one can break you with betrayal again
