Many Americans are living in a near-constant state of stress.  Relentless news cycles, fears around safety and conflict, concerns about rogue immigration enforcement, and the strain of a distressed and unaffordable economy are not just worries; these are all chronic stressors that directly impact the nervous system.  

Today, I continue discussing attachment styles on the anxious portion of the spectrum.  Understanding the various attachment styles, supports development of Emotional Intelligence, which creates a foundation for strong personal and professional relationships.  When we understand these attachment styles, it is easier to decipher our own emotions and reactions; and to understand the emotions and actions of those around us.  It is important to remember that attachment styles may fluctuate based on interactions with others. For example, one is likely to feel less anxious and more secure when interacting with a supportive person, and more anxious dealing with those who express anxiety or avoidance in tone of voice or body language. 

Anxious-ambivalent attachment forms, in early childhood, when the love of caregivers feels inconsistent, unpredictable, or emotionally confusing. It comes from experiencing closeness that was sometimes warm and attuned… and sometimes emotionally unavailable or withdrawn. This inconsistency conditions the nervous system to seek intense connection, while simultaneously fearing loss, emotional distance or rejection.  This attachment style leans in for closeness, while bracing for collapse.

The anxious-avoidant attachment style, often referred to as dismissive-avoidant, is one of the most misunderstood attachment patterns. On the surface, people with this style appear strong, independent, self-reliant, and emotionally contained. Underneath that calm exterior lies a deep fear of emotional dependence, intimacy, and relational vulnerability.

Attachment styles shape the way we connect, trust, communicate, and allow ourselves to be seen. For those who carry the fearful-avoidant (also known as disorganized) attachment style, relationships often feel like a tug-of-war between deep longing and deep fear. Fortunately, attachment styles aren’t destiny—they’re patterns shaped by relational experiences, and they can be transformed with intentional self-work.

A Mind–Body–Energy Approach for Personal Transformation

Thanksgiving is more than a holiday marked on a calendar; it is an invitation to pause and return to our hearts. The season encourages us to acknowledge our blessings, slow down enough to feel supported, and reflect on our personal growth throughout the year. It is a reminder to appreciate the people beside us, honor our healing, and connect to the feeling of being, having, and doing enough.

Our earliest experiences with love, safety, and belonging become the foundation upon which we build our sense of self. Yet for many of us, those early bonds carry invisible imprints of pain from unmet needs, emotional neglect, inconsistency, or conditional love. These are what we call mother wounds, father wounds, and generational wounds. The wounds are energetic and emotional patterns passed down through family lines that shape how we relate to ourselves, others, and the world.

Halloween is often seen as a playful night of costumes, candy, and imagination, but beneath its festive spirit lies a profound invitation for inner exploration. Spiritually, this season represents the thinning of the veil between worlds; not only between the living and the spirit realm, but also between our conscious and subconscious selves. The masks and costumes we wear on Halloween can symbolize something far deeper: the hidden emotional and energetic masks we carry within us every day.

Have you ever noticed how your energy changes when you’re feeling joy versus when you’re feeling fear? Every emotion we experience carries a specific energetic frequency, and that frequency influences how we think, act, and attract experiences into our lives. My Energy Frequency Chart illustrates this relationship, showing how emotional states correspond to levels of consciousness — from shame and guilt at the lowest frequencies to peace and enlightenment at the highest.